Usually when you are grieving and someone says something so senselessly optimistic to you, it’s about them. Either they want to feel like they can say something helpful, or they simply cannot allow themselves to entertain the finality and pain of death, so instead they turn it into a Precious Moments greeting card… as a chaplain, I felt that people really just needed me to mostly shut the hell up and deal with the reality of how painful it all is. – Pastrix, Nadia Bolz-Weber