It is possible to bend the universe too sharply toward our kids? I think yes. Any child who expects every authority figure and system to be geared toward his happiness is in for a shock. You know what school is for? Learning. You know what else? Sometimes kids get a mean teacher or a class they don’t like or an inflexible deadline even though that child was “exhausted the night before.” We should not cushion every blow. This is life. Learning to deal with struggle and to develop responsibility is crucial. A good parent prepares the child for the path, not the path for the child. We can still demonstrate gentle and attached parenting without raising children who melt on a warm day.

Let’s not engineer our entire lives around their entertainment and manufactured success. If our kids only expect blessings and exemptions, they will be terrible grown-ups.
– For the Love, Jen Hatmaker

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